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    在得意的时候


      人有个普遍的特点,在得意的时候,往往会忘记自己的言行。我常常便有这个感觉,于人高谈阔论一番后,回头一想,所说之言论,多有不实之处,皆是兴之所致,满口胡说了。感到惊讶的是,当时说那些话的时候,居然全然不觉得自己在乱说,等事后才觉得多有谬误,于人不利,于己无益,全图个嘴上快活。

     

      难怪夫子在《论语》里面常常说要“慎言”,在说话的时候,一定要慎重,在一个慎重的场合说话,一般人还会注意,但是到了自己熟识的亲友的面前,说话却往往不知道慎重,尤其是兴致来了,便是满口胡言。在大乘佛法里面也强调“三业”清净,身业、口业、意业。而口业尤其容易造,因为上嘴皮一张,下嘴皮一合,就可以说话了,东家长西家短,这个人不行那个人不好,或者不知觉中吹嘘自己劳苦功高、英明神武,往往一句不慎,一句话不合,或误人于歧途,或增添别人的妄想杂念,或伤人自尊,或引来猜忌,甚至箭语杀人,能不畏惧?

     

      尤其如果自己对某一件事情,不是能全面深入的了解的情况,更要慎重的言论,切切不可随大流,人云亦云。《孙子兵法》有云:“见胜不过众人之所知,非善之善者也。”就是说,能对胜负(这里可以引申为一件事)的认识不过是别人都能知道的那样,那就不是最好的了。由此可知,对于一些事情的认识,往往大流的认识是不对的,或者说是不够全面深入的。所以不要以为自己读了几本书,在电视上或者是报纸上看了一个观点,或对某个专业领域稍有涉足,就拿浅见的认识,对别人枉加指责,藐视一切人不如自己。“无知者无畏”,越是知道的少的人,往往越是会对学养高的人枉加评论。或有好为人师者,到哪里都是一番阔论。如此种种都是应该常常自省。

     

      于人多处、得意时,或者不说,或少说、达意即可。夫子曰“刚毅木纳,近乎仁。”言行怎敢不重、不慎?

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    Li Celinewrote:
    写的好!
    Oct. 25

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